10 Cheating Spouse Signs to Look Out For

“People who are so dreadfully “devoted” to their wives are so apt, from mere habit, to get devoted to other people’s wives as well.” – Jane Welsh Carlyle

When people talk about cheating spouses, I often think of this quote. It seems an ever increasing number of spouses are seeking out ways to catch their cheating spouse. Most people who suspect their spouse is cheating want to quickly run out and hire a PI, or purchase spy phone software to catch their spouse in the act. I recommend before you go out and purchase spy software or hire a PI, that you first try to confirm that your spouse is indeed having an affair.

Here are the top ten warning signs that your spouse is having an affair.

1) Your spouse may be spending more time with a so called “new friend” and when you enquire may say that they are just good friends and nothing more.

2) One of the most common “warning” signs is that your spouse appears to be bored with you, with his/ her job, with children, with hobbies and with their life in general. Something is distracting them and making them think of a new life. Is it because of someone new?

3) Your spouse starts to actively seek out ways to protect their privacy, especially thethings that both of you have historically shared openly, but now they unexpectedly start to change passwords on their emails accounts, or add a PIN number to their cell phone.

4) Has your spouse started to push for more space in the relationship? Are they now seeking for ways to spend time “alone” in order to clear their mind? When someone starts to ask for time away or time alone, it’s usually because that “alone time” is most likely shared with someone else.

5) One of the obvious signs is a change in working house. Are they now coming home later than usual? Are they leaving for work earlier than normal? Taking longer lunch breaks or starting to work on weekends?

6) Is your spouse now spending a significant amount of time on their laptop when they are home? If there is not a reason for this (such as a new business or project they are working on), then it’s a sign that they could be using their time at home to secretly chat with the “other” person.

7) When your spouse is on the phone, do they now quickly move to isolated parts of the home for privacy. Or they taking the dogs out for more frequent walks, often while hanging onto their cell phones?

Do you see subtle behavior changes? Are they staying out late now? Working later than usual? Suddenly interested in new hobbies, perfumes, fashion, etc. that cannot be explained.

9) Is your spouse frequently getting defensive when you press them for information on their whereabouts? Or perhaps when you ask them where they’ve been?

10) Is your personal relationship less intimate now? Do you feel distant and is there now less conversation when you are together?

Please keep in mind that these ten ‘Cheating Spouse Tips’ are only meant to give you some things to look out for in case you are worried your spouse might be having an affair. Just because you notice one or two of these happening, doesn’t necessarily mean they are cheating, so make sure you keep the dialogue open and discuss your concerns with your spouse. If you still suspect something is going on, you can always go hire a PI or purchase cheating spouse software, to find out the truth.