Whose Advice Should You Follow, If You Dont Want Your Marriage To End?

Does it seem like your marriage is falling apart in front of your eyes?

You can save your marriage even if

• your spouse says “I’m in love with someone else”

• your spouse says “I have been having an affair”

• your spouse says “I want a divorce”

• your spouse doesnt want to

The 4 Steps To Save The Marriage

 You must

1. gain control over your own emotions, which will be running wild
2. determine if the marriage is worth saving
3. take professional advice from a professional marriage counsellor, who has successfully helped others solve similar marriage problems
4. act on the advice of the professional

Your Emotions Will Run Riot

To suddenly hear the words “I dont love you anymore”, from your spouse, can feel like a knife plunging through your heart.  You can feel that your whole life is crumbling before you.  

You will experience a wide range of emotions including devastation, worry, fear, embarrassment, loneliness, hopelessness and anger.

You will think uncontrollable thoughts like

• “I cant believe that He/she has done this to me.

• “I’ll be alone for the rest of my life”

• “How will this affect the children?”

• “What will happen financially?”

• “What will friends and family think?”

These are the typical reactions you can expect.  But, you must gain control over them  to save the marriage – and the sooner the better.

Decide If You Really Want To Save The Marriage

When your emotions subside, you may decide to end the marriage.  If this is the case, you will take a certain course of action that is not the subject of this post.

But, as you are reading this post, it is more likely that you still love your spouse and want to do everything possible to save your marriage.

This primarily involves seeking advice from professionals, who have a strong track record in saving marriages, and following that advice.  At the same time, you must avoid behavior that will worsen the relationship with your spouse.

Do not, under any circumstances, seek or follow advice from friends and family.  You can be certain that they will be well intended.  They will have, what they think is, your best interests in mind.   However, as they are not professionals at this and do not know what actually works and what doesnt, it can be damaging to what you want to achieve.

Seek A Marriage Counsellor Who Has A Good Track Record Of Success

The number of divorces is on the rise. Almost 1 out of every 2 marriages ends in divorce.   This does not reflect well on the marriage counselling profession, in general.

Traditional marriage counselling techniques produces a 20% success rate.  How would you feel about placing the future of your marriage in the hands of a marriage counsellor who had a 20% success rate?

The good news is that there are marriage counsellors who achieve a much higher success rate than that. They use different techniques that achieve proven results. That is what you want.

Take Advice That Works And Follow It

Speed is essential.  The sooner you get the advice and the sooner you act on that advice, the more likely it is that you will have success.

The biggest mistake people make, in the midst of a marital crisis, is to wait too long before taking the actions that will save the marriage

Will You Succeed?

If you have a sincere desire to save your marriage, and if you can commit yourself to following the strategies of a professional who has a proven record of success in saving marriages, then you have what it takes to realistically get the marriage back on track.

You have a good chance of success, even if your spouse doesn’t want to save the marriage, at this time.