Your Questions About How To Save A Failing Marriage

How do you let go of a failed marriage?

I was married for 14 years, after counseling, talking numerous times, and going to church to try to save our marriage, we couldn’t. For 10 years of that my husband constantly sought the attention and affection of other women behind my back in any form he could get. After we seperated and he moved out it was a relief, that I didn’t have to wonder who called him that day, what he was up to where he had been, he no longer was my problem. We had a lavish lifestyle that we lost one by one and 2 beautiful daughters. My X’s husbands focus a lot of times was on me, spoiling me with gifts, whatever I pretty much wanted I got, but then he cheated on me constantly. I have moved on with my life, met somebody great and am hopeful about our relationship, but constantly feel like a failure, a statistic. We are now raising our daughters in a broken home which is like a punch in the gut to me because I always wanted the best for my kids, and didn’t want this for my kids because it’s the way I was raised. I know I’m happier, more relieved to be out of that situation every day, but how do you get over being a failure honestly, what do you tell yourself so you can move on?

.Is there a happy ending, it feels as though worst could be better than how I feel right now! Is there hope?I?

So; I am reaching out to the world in effort to save my failing marriage! I’m probably like a millioln others out there with this feeling of desperation! It is affecting my self esteem, my work ethic, my home ethic, my children, my mind, attitude and self worth, and ultimately it is affecting him, my life’s companion! I have so much to work on, it feels like so little time, as a matter of fact, I think it may be too late. His habits, attitude and communication with me are quite harsh, he’s sick of me, showing signs of attraction towards others, talks in his sleep of what he’s done, calls me by another’s name, gets extreme in reaction when I question his actions, brings up the past, causes fights, is doing extraordinary things far outside his norm, getting “ready” before work in a way he never has, wears cologne for work, not me, tells me he’s going one place and goes another, doesn’t call me nearly ever and seems to get highly angry at things out of the norm…help

How to pro-life, anti-abortion, “Save-sex-for-marriage” type of Christians explain this?

So I’ve seen a lot of Christians say that if people just had sex when they’re married, there would be a decrease in abortions, contraceptive failures and unwanted pregnancies. Well, let me enlighten you:

1) Married women do get abortions.

2) Married couples do face the challenges/consequences of unwanted pregnancies.

3) Yes, contraceptives aren’t 100% effective… regardless of marital status. If a married couple is on birth control and it happens to fail, you can’t say that the only reason why it happened is because they didn’t save sex for marriage.

So if you really think that “abstaining” from sex till marriage is going to “cure” the abortion problem, think again.

How to change my character towards my broken marriage?

Its has been 8 yrs of marriage. The problem may b is me. I have fail to change my character towards my broken marriage. I would like to change to a better wife but it seems that i never wanted to change at all. We love each other but he don’t feel i care about him, concern about his life, with the attitude of don’t bother abouts what happening to his life. Is like I’m the spectator and he is the player. He always feel irratated with me and everymonth he will lecture me and repeat again and again about what i didn’t do as a responsible and caring wife and i have keep failing to be his wife.

I admit, he is poor and not financially strong. I worked too but i’m thinking a husband should have provide and be stable in his financial. May be because thats why i don’t respect him and I always fail to change my character to save this marriage.

He said i’m not ready to be married, not ready to be somebody’s wife, always live like a single and don’t undestand what is marriage all about.

Why are some women so silly to think that a baby will change anything?

Why do women assume this?

Why aren’t they smart enough to know that men will not be trapped like that, no matter how much it costs?

I don’t know why they do it to themselves. It’s really sad and terrible. Bringing children into the world all to save your doomed an failed marriage which was doomed from the start because you’re not a good match but you obviously don’t have the foresight because you’re soooo in love.

Know what I mean?