Your Questions About How To Save A Troubled Marriage

how can i save my marriage of 28 years? We have split up after several years of not knowing how to talk?

He is a truck driver and says he has feelings for a student of his. We have had alot of problems with communication for several years and i don’t want to lose him. I don’t want to make him feel guilty for not being in love with me, but i don’t want a divorce either. Please if anyone can help me i would appreciate it. He is a good man, but has trouble finding what makes him happy.
I don’t know how to answer on this yet, but here goes. We only stopped talking several years ago. We have actually talked more since this has come about than we have in those years. Not all of the 28 years have been bad. He tells me he loves me, always has, always will, but he is not IN love with me. But thank you for the advice.I have always supported him with whatever he did, kept my mouth shut when i was angry, that was what i think the problem was, i didn’t tell him what he was doing to me or our family.

I need advice to save my marriage?!?

ok, so i have repeatedly cheated on my wife with the young student teacher, Cassandra. When my wife caught me, she took my daughter and they are both staying in hotel. Last night, I texted Cassandra and said we needed to talk. she wore another tight fitting, see thruough outfit, (see thru white tee, shirt white shorts) and we met at a cafe. This is how our conversation went- cass-you wanted to talk? me- yes. i can`t be with you anymore cass-be with me? i was never “with you” we just like to have a littlw fun sometimes. my boyfriend probably wouldn`t even care. I`m also a little angry becasue now my dangerous sex style has gotten me in trouble. The school found out about the charge of nudity and assault and things and I`m suspended right now! (grabs my p**is under the table) But that just gives us more freedom me- cass you have a boyfriend? let go of my junkkk! you still wNna have sex and you have a boyfriend? cass- you got a wife! and a daughter. and maybe andother on the way… me- i know but you seduced me- wait! please don`t tell me your pregnant! cass- well we didnt use protection. so if the test comes out positive, your the father. (shes still rubbing my junkkkkk) me- lord in heavan! i gotta go cass-wait- one last little “encounter?” with protection of course me-well, i guess, my wife left already = got nothin to lose. cass- come on, I know the perfect place. So, i gave in. she took me to an alley where people in the street could see us! she likes it dangerous. We almost got arrested. I told my friend and he said to try and get allll of us, me, cass,my wife, cass`s boyfriend and evn my daughter, in on these encounters. I maybe a lot of things but im DEFINETLY not one of those people who don`t ry interesting things. What do you think of the situation.

My husband and I are having serious marriage trouble, lack of communication, disrespect both to one another,?

disagreement on parenting (he has three children and I have one they all live with us). We can’t even go a week without a disagreement,,,, both hurt and bitter. only been a year … As if that is not bad enough I am four months pregnant with our baby.. What can we do to save our marriage?? Any great books ?? no time for counseling?? Anyone made it back from the brinks of divorce from a blended family…if so how?? We love one another but as he puts it all the time its not enough??

Money issues in marriage?

My man and I have been together for 7 wonderful years. We share the same interests, common likes and dislikes and we get along. The only problem is our different views on money. I personally view life as something that needs to be lived. I tend to be the spender in the relationship. I spend my own money and I have trouble saving. I tend to like going out more and having a good time. I like to take trips and go places. My man on the other hand is a saver. He tends to think in lines of retirement and the future. He doesn’t go out a lot so he doesn’t really see why I enjoy going out with friends and family. He saves almost every bit of his paycheck and tries to avoid going places to save money on gas. Lately we have be clashing on money. He says I need to save more and I say that he needs to loosen up. He wants me to stop getting things done like hair, nails, etc. He also thinks that I should limit my going out to once or twice a month instead of each week. Also when I want to go places I get lectured about money and how I’m wasting it. Sometimes I understand how he feels and sometimes I think he is just being unfair.

So my question is what kind of compromise can we reach that will help us both be happy? Has anybody else had this problem? Also is he being unfair or am I just misunderstanding?

Serious answers only please! Best answer gets the points!

How can I save sex for marriage?

I’m a 19-year-old college girl, and for personal and religious reasons (I’m Christian), I’ve committed to remaining a virgin until my wedding night. I still want to date now, because naturally my body is encouraging me to have sex, and I want very much to fall in love and move toward that wedding night. The only trouble is that it seems most guys are accustomed to getting sex much earlier in a relationship than I’m willing to provide it, and I’m worried they’ll all get snatched up by girls who put out sooner.

Also, I hear so much talk about wanting to ensure “sexual compatibility” before marriage. This doesn’t really make sense to me because I’m thinking that if we have compatible sex drives, as well as similar morals and desires when it comes to sex (all of which we can find out just by talking), and we both have all functioning parts, there can’t be any real sexual incompatibility. Of course, I’m a virgin, so if I’m wrong on this, do tell. My point being that many people consider premarital sex common, and even practical.

So here’s the thing: I want a man who will respect my desire to save sex for marriage, who will be willing to marry without a “test run,” and who will be patient enough to work with me on the honeymoon until I’m able to please him sexually. Are they still out there? If so, where can I find them? Are there any men on Y!A who are also waiting?
greatprincemichael, that was completely unhelpful. I’m already aware that most people in our society engage in premarital sex. If you read the question, I’m looking for someone to help me live up to my personal standards, not to scoff at them. A conservative church has not forced these values on me; I have chosen them myself based on my own personal interpretation of the Bible, and based on what I do and don’t want to experience in my life.

Thanks to everyone else for the wonderful answers! I really appreciate the suggestions, the encouragement, the personal experience, and the humour!