Your Questions About How To Save Your Marriage

would you be willing to try save your marriage after finding out your hubby has had an affiar?

ok so i was seeing a married man we were sleeping with each other for near enough a year and a half
it ended over a year ago now last time i saw him was over a yaer ago however
iv recently message him via the facebook website
just to ask how things were going and if he was ok
was just a polite message b ut the next day to messageing him id been out with friends and got very DRUNK…
therefore i messaged him once again telling him i missed not seeing him
i later got a message saying sorry do i no you inplieing hed had no other messages i know its his wife messageing me back he wouldt put such a thing so now his wife knows of his little secret but shes is not away that we were seeing each other for over a year

theres probably hell on within thier house hold at the moment
i really shouldnt of messaged him should i
i wish id of let well alone i was wrong of me i know!!
but do u thing they will work through it could you try save your marriage after finding out his been haveing an affair??
or will this be the end……
i think they have been married over ten years now
so i really dont no what the future holds for them both now?

could you forgive??

Would you have an abortion to save your marriage?

I’m 19 years old, my husband is 21 (almost 22). Right now he’s in the Air Force Reserve, hopefully going full time. He wanted me to get pregnant, I told him how awful the timing would be…but he still insisted. I love kids, especially babies…so I really didn’t mind. Even though I plan on breast feeding, trying to use cloth diapers and maybe getting a job at a daycare so i could work and still take care of our child…but he still insists we can’t afford it. Medical expenses before or after the baby is born, really isn’t an issue. Tri care would cover it all, bc he’s on orders and is taking some classes for his job which give him the same benefits of an active duty airman. Then after he had nothing else to complain about, he said neither of us (meaning the baby and myself) are healthy enough for it. I’m plenty healthy…he just thinks I eat unhealthy. I’m not overweight and I really don’t eat bad things…he’s just mad bc I don’t specifically eat what he wants me to. Anyways, he informed me today that if I didn’t get an abortion, we were going to separate. His idea of separating was me living with him, paying half the bills, and taking care of the baby entirely by myself. So, of course, this way he could see it. I’m 14 weeks pregnant, btw. I really can’t do this by myself, but I left him earlier. I packed all my stuff and left, bc no matter how hard I try…I don’t think I could deal with abortion. But I already miss him soo much, I can barely breathe, I keep making myself sick, I just want to be with him. All this stress couldn’t be good for the baby either…he said he wants to have a baby later, just not right now. But I’m just wondering, would you have an abortion to save your marriage, knowing you would have another chance at having another baby? The thought kills me…but being without him hurts me even more somehow. What am I supposed to do? I really don’t think he’s considering adoption…but I’m not sure which would hurt me more; abortion, having a baby and giving it to a stranger and never seeing it again, having an open adoption, but never get to take care of it…or asking a family member to adopt and having to see it often, but never actually having it all to myself…I’m just so confused…I’m too young to have to make these decisions. I don’t think it’s fair to punish our child for a choice that we made, for a baby we wanted. But how is it fair for the baby to grow up knowing his father didn’t want him? or her. I want this baby so bad, I’ve put up with the worst morning sickness for this baby…but I love my husband so much. I’m so scared that either way i’ll hate myself and end up failing.
I know it’s a sensitive subject, I just want honest opinions of what ppl would do if they were in my situation. If your spouse gave you an ultimatum like that, what would you choose? People can judge me all they want to, either way I’ll hate myself in the end. I think we’re going to try adoption…we talked a little. My aunt has two daughters but got her tubes tied…her and her fiance want a boy but would probably be happy either way. So we might ask her…hopefully she’ll say yes…
ha okay “wazzyrobin”. sounds like something only a crazy person would come up with. way to be a total b****. I didn’t say i was going through with it, I didn’t say I wouldn’t. I’m going to try for an open adoption with a family member. Do you think I want to even be considering this? This boy has put me through hell numerous times, I know his arrogant butt won’t leave me again bc the last time he tried that he begged me to come back the second I was gone. He really can’t live without me…but I also know that he wouldn’t help support the baby after it’s born, he wouldn’t help take care of it, I couldn’t bare to have him touch my child with his attitude towards it. He wants me to pay for it all, take care of it completely on my own but still live with him so he can see the baby when it’s convenient to him. Believe me I know how much of a douchebag he’s being…I love him nonetheless. I am miserable without him.

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If you have already filed for a divorce and what would be the best route to take to save your marriage?

If the your sinificant other says they want the divorce but all you can do is sit back and remember the statements that were made in a positive manner and you honestly know how they feel truely about you what do you do?